 Some men might be intimidated by intelligent, beautiful women. It really depends on the man. Usually a man who has strong iman (faith) and is comfortable with himself will not be intimidated by an intelligent, educated, beautiful woman.
Most men are worried about their ability to make their wife happy and that is what is behind their insecurities. If a man feels that he has something to offer the woman and that he will be needed by her, then he will be confident with her.
Indeed, men are attracted (and probably always have been) to intelligent, educated, beautiful women. However, the man wants a woman who is able to respond to him, receive his affection and focus on him and the relationship. If a woman is able to put the marriage and her relationship first, then his feeling for her is more likely to be warm.
There is no reason to hide your education, job status, intelligence, etc. but then again, there is no real reason for that to be the focus in a relationship or marriage either. The main point is what you are focusing on.
So, do seek a man for his character, and if you find a man of good character, chances are he will also have confidence in himself and strong iman. If such a man pursues a woman, then it is wise of her to respond and allow him to lead her into a marriage.
Indeed, education and job status is not the measure of intelligence or worth. An intelligent man will recognize this and seek a woman who he feels can share his life with him.
If a woman strives to be the kind of a woman who can share a life with a good man, then she should not have too much trouble attracting a man with good character. Remember a man with a good character will be seeking a woman with a character that matches his, and this will likely be the criteria that he uses when choosing a wife.
So, in summary, don’t focus so much on who is intelligent, beautiful, educated or has high status, but rather focus in becoming the kind of woman that a man of good character and strong Iman will choose. Men choose someone that they feel is a reflection of their own souls. So match the man’s soul that you would have lead you into marriage and he will not be intimidated by you, rather he will be filled with joy.
Something to keep in mind is how fast this world has changed in just the last 5 years. The traditional jobs that men worked for the purpose of providing for a wife and family have been disappearing.
This phenomenon of almost 50% of the western women being the primary wage earning in USA households happened almost overnight with women going to school while the men were working in the jobs that have been replaced by the “information” jobs.
This will likely reverse itself over time as more men seek education so that they can compete in the job market. What used to be marketable skills simply are not as marketable. Expect continued rapid change over the next 5 years.
Source: onislam.net |